The same applies to men:
There are many philosophies about service in a BDSM relationship. Some Dominants wish to have service slaves - girls who give up all that they are and devote their lives to serving every whim of their Masters - 24/7. Others keep sexual servants - who give their bodies over completely for any sexual use he wishes - including friends and acquaintances. Still other wish to have domestics - skilled in keeping a house and preparing everything from meals to a bath.
I have a different outlook. I desire a girl who is intelligent, strong, talented, and confident in her place in life and her vocation. I do not wish her to give up everything to serve me - because that would require her to “lose herself”. If she is the right girl for me - she will come to understand this instinctively, and she will serve me in thoughtful ways.
I do love service from my girl. Sexual, domestic, and otherwise. Not to the extreme - but intimate, sensual, and deep. The right girl will take the time to learn my likes and preferences so that she can better anticipate my needs and delight me with the gift of herself.
One last note. I never demand service. Anything demanded or forced is not satisfying to me. My goal is to motivate and inspire my girl. If I am her true Dominant, I will create a burning desire to please. Over and over again.